Starting from where I left off the other time. I ended by asking some questions, like: Does the world need to know the people we are in relationships with? Does the world need to be updated on every aspect of our supposedly private lives?
If you missed the first part, you can read it here:SOCIAL NETWORKS AND PRIVACY(Part 1)
It is easy to assume that everyone understands what social networking means, but it is not safe to assume so. From the various abuse that social networks suffer, it is apparent that a lot of us don’t understand what social networking is all about.
WhatIs.com defines Social networking as the practice of expanding the number of one’s business and/or social contacts by making connections through individuals, often through social media sites such as Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and Google+. http://whatis.techtarget.com/
Dictionary.com defines it asTake note of the bold phrases above.There are thousands of such definitions on the internet, and I can go on and on to quote them, but then, there is no need for that because the definitions are all the same.In a simple man’s words, social networking is the practice of making online connections with both people we already know and those that we don’t.The strong terms in the definitions are: Making Social and professional contacts.meaning that the purpose of the connections could either be social or professional.The problem now is that a lot of people have difficulties in handling the social aspect properly. That is where the problem with making private matters public starts.Social Networks and Privacy…We live in a world of “show Biz”. A world of entertainment. A world in which everyone wants to ‘show’ how happy, successful, beautiful, talented, lucky, etc., they are. And the emergence of social networking sites, has greatly promoted this lifestyle. There is nothing wrong in living in a show biz world. Of course, people need to be entertained. It makes life easier. But the problem lies with:“SHOWING” PEOPLE MORE THAN THEY NEED TO KNOW, ALL IN THE NAME OF SOCIAL NETWORKING”When I talk about showing people more than they need to know, i am particular about issues concerning personal relationships like marriage, courtship, family, etc.Originally, the aim of social networking sites, was to connect friends, and help people make new ones. And to equally help people expand their professional terrian. Of course on the social side, friends are free to discuss different issues and share photos, but does it have to go as deep as creating an “album” or a what can pass as a full “home movie” about practically everything that goes down in one’s marriage, and relationship? How does social networking translate to baring one’s entire family and personal lives, to the world to see? Some people have nothing left about them. Evrything is on their social networks handle.Now, before I am misunderstood, let me state that people are free to live their lives the way they please. In the first part, i pointed out that different people will have different opinions about the topic and i am only out to share my own opinion and advise.I am moved to write on this because of my observations about the harms that making private matters public via social networking sites, have done to a lot of people.Private stuffs, when kept private, are safe and they equally last longer.I always like using analogies so here is one, for keeping our private lives private.But before I begin, let us understand that what i refer to as Private are those things that we place a lot of values on.Here is my analogy.About three years ago, I bought a dress that cost me about twenty thousand naira. At that time, (and even now), buying a dress worth that price was(and is still) crazy as far as i am concerned. But for some important and unavoidable reasons, i had to go for it. Whenever i wash this particular dress, i do not make the mistake of hanging it outside. I spin very well and hang inside my bathroom. The very thought of it being stolen when i take it outside (even though the chances are very slim), scares me because not only did i spend a lot to buy the dress, it is equally a very beautiful dress, which is “very close to my heart”, so i safeguard it very well…i don’t want to hear any unpleasant story about it.Relate the above analogy to romantic relationships, especially marriages. Dress is material and, yet I was meticulous about keeping it safe. What about our human companions? Isn’t our spouse supposed to be our highest priced treasure?(all things being equal). If i could keep my twenty thousand naira dress, away from public eyes, to avoid damage or even theft, why would anyone expose their romantic partners( even as serious as marriage partners) to a world of people that we barely know? Is it not like throwing a lamb into a pack of hyenas?The truth is that not everyone has good intentions. The fact that you communicate with people online and they like and comment on your stuffs, does not make all of them good people. Some people hate to see others happy. Some people will do anything to take away what makes others happy, for no reason at all. These kind of people exist in our world. #fact#Why expose your loved ones to such a world?The world does not need to know the people we are romantically involved with.The world does not need to be updated on every personal move that we make.Marriage is one of the most beautiful relationships I know, but sadly, a lot of marriages suffer today and a thorough investigation shows that a number of them suffer because of abuse of social networking sites by some of the parties involved.Keep your treasures safe!Let’s discuss MARRIAGE and why some fail later on this site.For now, go with this:Social netwroking is one of the greatest things that has happend to mankind. But when abused, it could cost one a lot. Feel free to use the sites, but if you can keep these away from them, then you are on the right track.1. ISSUES CONCERNING YOUR LOVE LIFE /PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS2. YOUR NEXT MOVE3. YOUR INCOMEDO NOT TELL PEOPLE MORE THAN THEY NEED TO KNOW, ALL IN THE QUEST TO BELONG OR SHOW THAT YOU ARE LIVING A GOOD LIFE. THE DISADVANTAGES ARE FAR MORE THAN THE ADVANTAGES.1 Thessalonians 4:11 says: New International Version
..”and to make it your ambition to lead a quiet life: You should mind your own business and work with your hands, just as we told you”There is wisdom in the teaching. Only the wise abide by it.A quiet life compels dignity, peace and respect. May God bless us with all the wisdom that we need.