WHAT LIFE HAS TAUGHT ME

The older we get, the wiser we become! Well, it is supposed to be that way because more time we spend here on earth, the more experiences we have and the experiences are supposed to reshape our lives positively. (This may not always stand for everyone 😂) So if you have become wiser with age, BRAVO! Let’s drink to that 🥂!

In an ideal world, we LIVE TO LEARN. Didn’t they say that he who stops learning, stops living?

This can’t be argued because every event that happens around us, is meant to teach us. Unfortunately not a lot of people are able to learn from the events that happen around them or even in their lives.

On the morning of my birthday this year, I decided to have a quiet time and reflect on “my life” and in the process of doing that, I figured that indeed, life has taught me a lot of good lessons . So! Here i am, trying to share some of the LESSONS with YOU. I hope you enjoy reading this piece.

LESSON 1.

EXPECT NOTHING

Is it okay to be hopeful, but while you do so, ensure that you do not put all your heart in anything or anyone.

Start off by expecting nothing. If it eventually comes, then be grateful and see it as a privilege rather than a right. If it doesn’t come, then your heart will still be “safe” because you never really expected it. Expect something and you will be hurting greatly if it doesn’t come.

Take it from me that Expectations are the chief causes of most heartaches.

LESSON 2.

People as it is, are busy with their lives and their joys/troubles. Nobody really cares about what happens with you, unless they will benefit from it directly or indirectly.

This goes for the people who think that the world revolves around them. The ones who worry too much about what others think of them, that is, how people perceive them. By so doing, they live their lives for others.

Truth is, people hardly notice what is going on in your life. Even if they do, your life and what you do with it, is the least of their problem and so they are very unlikely to dwell on your life issues for a long time. Put in a simple sentence,PEOPLE MOVE ON QUICKLY. They do so especially from things that do not affect them directly.

So next time you want to spend all day worrying about what that person thinks about that mistake you made yesterday, remember that he or she has probably moved on and so should you!

LESSON 3

The best gift to yourself is the ability to foot your bills rather than depend on anyone to do that.

This is supposed to be self explanatory, but let me put in a few words.

Look, nothing is wrong in people helping others. After all, all fingers are not equal, and sometimes we need a little help from others to get to the next level.

But it is equally true that “begging” is not what anyone should be doing. It leaves a dent on one’s self image and esteem. Besides, what we get from begging is never enough!

I put it this way: The little i get from the labour of my hands, is more valuable that the many i get from “begging”.

You don’t know what you are doing to your self image by depending on others 100%!

Bottom line, It is good to make ones own living.

LESSON 4

If you are successful, people don’t love you more, they are drawn to your success. And the other way round.

There’s no truer statement.

Success has many friends.

People don’t love you more when you are successful, they are simply drawn to the beam of light of your success. They don’t hate you when you are unsuccessful, your failure puts them away.

Bottom line, people are naturally drawn to success. So strive to be successful! 😊

LESSON 5

Treat people with respect and you will have a peaceful life.

That they disrespect you is not enough reason to do same to them. Rather you can keep away from them, or ignore they that disrespect you. It is much better than disrespecting them back. Do this if not for anything, then for your peace of mind.

LESSON 6

Getting entangled with the trend is what it is:an entanglement:a bondage.

It’s okay to be “current”. To know what’s going on in the world around you. But must you follow all that trend in order to be relevant or happy? The answer is a big, fat NO!

The trend can range from lifestyle, dress style, social media trends, etc.

Set your own trends according to your personal choices. Go with the trends that you are comfortable with and not what others created for themselves. Create your trends, and follow them, owning nobody any apologies for your choices. That way, you will never be under any kind of pressure to be “trendy” or please anyone.

So! These are some of the lessons life has taught me! They may appear simple, but really, they are deep. Well, to me. And I hope you are able to learn one or more lessons from this.

What lesson has life taught you? Feel free to share them in the comments section.

Meanwhile, keep living and learning! ✌🏻

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