I BLAMED LIFE FOR MY PROBLEMS!?

One mistake we make most times is expecting life to treat us nicely all the time…

Sometimes life ‘throws’ us down in order to make us stronger.

Problems of life are not supposed to pull us down and ‘shatter’ us forever, rather they are supposed to “sit us down (pull us down), and  ‘mould’ us into a better people.

That period we are down, is meant to help us think and plan how to move to the next level.

I see every problem, obstacle or whatever you call those “draining and frustrating” moments, as a stepping stone to a bigger and better me.

What about you, How do you interpret those moments?

When I am down, I do not usually focus on the ‘event’ (being down), rather I focus on three things:

1. Why am I down

2. How do I get back up.

3. How do I avoid future falls.

I try to learn my lessons in order to avoid future falls. After which I think of “the way forward”. 

Before I learnt this lesson, I would normally get angry and frustrated. And sometimes I would look around for someone to blame for my failure. But over time, I realized that being angry and frustrated, will never do me any good at such moments. Just like blaming anyone or anything won’t . It is a huge waste of time because at the end of the day nothing good comes around.

The key here is STAYING FOCUSED, BEING CONFIDENT, AND POSITIVE AND HAVING THE WILL TO GO ON.

 

TIMES OF TRIBULATIONS, IN MY VIEW, SHOULD BE A PERIOD OF SERIOUS REFLECTIONS AND PLANNING. 

 

It’s not easy to stay focused when we’re troubled, I know. But with determination, and a constant reminder that negative energy worsens the situation, you can do it.

What I discovered is that when we decide to focus on, and feed the negative energy around us in times of problems and tribulations, we tend to BLAME LIFE. We totally forget about “what we might have done wrong”.

I have heard a lot of these expressions from a lot of people: “WHY IS MY OWN LIFE DIFFERENT? WHY IS LIFE THIS UNFAIR TO ME?”

Personally, I don’t agree with these kinds of expressions…or thinking.

I don’t blame life, because it owes me nothing, rather I owe myself and even life itself, the responsibility to succeed. The responsibility to make the best out of the gift of life! It’s not everyone that has that gift, remember, so having it is enough gift from “life”

It has given it to me and I am solely responsible for making the best out of this gift…

Some of us even go further to blame the people around us when we don’t succeed. Maybe a wealthy aunt, uncle, brother, sister, etc.

Listen, these people don’t owe you anything as far as life is concerned. The same way the gift of life was given to them, is the same way it was given to you.

IF YOU SUCCEED, YOU TAKE THE PRAISE, IF YOU FAIL, YOU TAKE THE BLAME…They don’t, neither does “life”

LIFE’S ONLY RESPONSIBILITY IS TO GIVE US ‘LIFE’. EVERY OTHER THING ABOUT our lives, including how we live it, what we make out of it, how we react to unpleasant times, etc., are IN OUR HANDS.

If You fail, YOU BLAME MYSELF…

If You succeed, YOU GET THE PRIASE…

Now, when you fail, what do you do? Get back up and push on, or sit tight on the ground and wallow in sorrow while you blame life and the people around you?

I leave you to reflect on this.

Shalom!

I Am My THOUGHT, And My THOUGHT Is Me

There is a saying that goes thus: “You attract what is predominant on your mind”

Paraphrasing it will go like, “what you think about all the time, ends up manifesting in your life.”

What do you think? Is it true or a myth?

Well, i can speak for myself based on my experiences…and that of some people around me.

The above saying is not only true…it is very very true!

It has taken me series of “tests” to finally come to this conclusion. On several occasions,I have witnessed some of the things I ponder on, wish for, come to reality even sometimes without me working for them.

For example, what i am today, may be as a result of the series of thoughts and imaginations i had as a child…and a young girl growing up. (Let’s leave that gist for another time 😜)

Someone might call it “answered prayers” , but the funny thing is that sometimes, people don’t really pray for some things that they have…

Magic? Well, I don’t believe in magic, but even those that do believe in it will testify that to get results from magic, there must be an action.

The only action that THOUGHTS need to manifest sometimes, is the action of THINKING.

It marvels me so much. No wonder the Holy Book says that our thoughts make us.

Why am I writing about this, anyway?

It is because I am convinced that we are PRODUCTS OF OUR THOUGHTS . And so should be mindful of them at all times .

Look around you, are things not working the way you believe they should, then please and please, pause, and maybe check your THOUGHTS!

Yes, your thoughts might be that “evil woman/man ” you have always believed is working against your progress.(tongue out 😜)

It is not MAGICAL that these things manifest, it is just what I call THE LAW OF NATURE/UNIVERSE.

IT works and can change your life from today.

Truth is that God Almighty has given us powers that we don’t even know about. This is one of such powers….the POWER OF THE MIND AND THOUGHTS.

Bottomline is:

What do you want, THINK ABOUT IT ALL THE TIME. (And support with actions and efforts of course)

What don’t you want? FORGET ABOUT IT COMPLETELY

Focus your mind on the things you want and not the ones you don’t want.

It’s difficult sometimes because somehow I think that the human brain feels better thinking about problems…because that’s the only way it functions : by solving problems.

But with dedication and constant awareness, the mind/brain can be trained to remain focused on the goods or at least how to change bad to good.

I am glad that I was inspired to share this with today. I hope it changes your life for GOOD.

Shalom!

THE VOICE WE WERE BORN WITH…the INNER voice

Some call it gut feeling… Some, instinct or intuition…some will say “my spirit”

No matter what you call it, it refers to that “tiny” voice inside of you. That voice that speaks to you FIRST, in any situation, before any other  intellectual voice does.

QUESTION TIME!

DO YOU LISTEN TO THIS VOICE, OR IGNORE IT AND JUMP TO THE OTHER VOICES THAT COME AFTER IT?

I call the process of listening to your instinct, COMMUNICATING WITH THE “YOU”  in YOU!

Understand that humans are spirits, clothed in  ” bodies”, to aid their existence here on earth. The instinct is part of what makes up the human spirit, so listening to it means listening to YOU.
I call whatever follows this first voice, intellectual because it always comes after you have somehow, pondered on the issue.

Now, my focus is on that “uncorruptible” first voice that we hear. Do you ignore it when is speaks, or do you listen to it and do what it “commands”?
Truth is that we have LOTS of gifts given by our Maker. These gifts are what make us “small gods”. INSTINCT, is one of such gifts. This is an incorruptible part of human which if we learn how to communicate with, will help us avoid lots of mistakes that can make life difficult.

I am talking out of experience. I have taken my time to work on this and I know that the times I failed to listen to my “first inner voices”, I ended up regretting. But the times I listened to and respected my inner voices, I had no regrets.

Earlier on I referred to it as ” incorruptible”, and that is because this voice comes from within…from the very  essence of our being : the spiritual part of us”. That part that has not been”stained” by the human intellectual quest. It is PURE.

Next time, when you are about doing something, when you get a question in your head, when there is a need to make a decision, why not listen to, and obey that first “innocent, pure, voice”.
This may not work for all, but it has worked, and is still working for MANY.
Many have avoided some drastic mistakes that could have cost them even their lives by listening to this precious pure voice called instinct, intuition, gut feeling, etc.

Like I said, it is one of the most precious gifts from our Maker.

Try appreciating this gift by putting it to work.

I wish you luck as you learn to COMMUNICATE WITH “YOU”

TALK ABOUT LIFE…talk about D.E.A.th

DONT SHY AWAY FROM IT…IT WILL CERTAINLY COME. IT IS OKAY TO BE PREPARED.

HOW DO YOU PREPARE?

Nobody prays to die young, but this is one thing we don’t have any control over-DEATH.

Growing up, my church  taught me that we (humans), were created by God for these purposes: TO KNOW HIM, TO LOVE HIM, TO WORSHIP HIM HERE ON EARTH, AND TO LIVE WITH HIM IN ETERNAL JOY IN HEAVEN .

 I believe in the aforementioned teaching. Especially the part where we have to live with Him in eternal joy in heaven.

The question is, how is this promise of eternal joyful life guaranteed if we don’t know God, Love Him, and Worship Him?

I can say that they are the prerequisite for the promised eternal joy-,Eternal joy comes after death.

DEATH! How we hate to think about it, or even talk about it, but the irony is that IT IS INEVITABLE. So why shy away from it?  It is one thing that we have absolutely no control over when it comes, and how!

Jesus Christ is the only way to eternal rest when death comes knocking.

It is not just about professing Him(though that is great too) But it is more about living a God-standard life. ACTION! LIVE THE WORD, DONT JUST PREACH IT.

Nobody is perfect, but we can try. His grace is sufficient for us. And by HIS grace we shall be saved.

Let’s Take a moment to ponder on how we have been living this God given life. For God, or against God?

Let’s stop all wickedness and Love one another. A life of Love, I believe, is a good life, because with love , nobody hurts another. 

Jesus said that the greatest commandment is to LOVE GOD, followed by LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR.

 

I dedicate this to all my loved ones and yours that have passed.

May they continue to rest in the Lord.

Have You Discovered Yourself?

I once ran into an old friend from high school. In the midst of our joy of reunion, we talked about life, what we had been through,the good, the bad, and the ugly. We rejoiced about the good, and lamented on how bad the economy is. I learnt that she had been without a job for the past three years. It had been hell according to her, having depended on her poor mother all those while. Mind you, she is a graduate of Business management. With a very good grade too.

She was still lamenting and slowly sipping her drink, pains and anger written all over her face, when I hit her with a question, which I didn’t think would be startling.

“Where have you applied so far?”

She was totally lost…gazed at me for some seconds, and then managed to mumble “where am I supposed to look for a job?”

I was shocked and a little bit disappointed in my learned friend.

From further discussions, it became clear to me that she had never applied for any job, her reason being that “if you know nobody in the society, nothing for you”

Real as that might sound and seem, it shouldn’t be a reason for a young and promising graduate to give up on herself already.

It’s like standing on the express road and saying that if you are run over by a car, then it’s your fate.

The worst thing anyone can do to him/herself is to stop trying;to give yourself an excuse;to give the world/society a reason to defeat you!

You can never stop trying until you breathe your last!

Sit up! Discover yourself! Nobody will do that for you! Look inside you and find out what you know how to do best, your academic status not withstanding.

It is called “discovering your talents” God is so merciful that He gave each one of us unique talent(s).

What is yours?

What is your passion?

What gives you joy and fulfilment whenever you think about, or do it?

There! There might lie your talent and your means of breaking through in life.

Don’t wait for life, the society, the government, your family , etc to discover you, discover yourself first and then you will be relevant.

Look at our musicians, actors, comedians, etc. They discovered themselves, and made themselves relevant in the society.

Mind you, many of them were once in situations where they felt like it was over, but they didn’t give up! (Well, I don’t think they would be where they are now if they did).

This is what matters…your ability to leave a dark room and still spread some light. Rise up above societal limitations, do something for yourself…the sky is just your starting point.

Rise up, and make life proud of giving you its gift of breath!

Shalom!

P. S. My friend that I used in the starting story discovered herself! Her passion lies in arts, and she is living happily, doing her thing. You too can do same. It’s all about DETERMINATION!